Proverbs 31 Woman — Part 19

Her children rise up and call her blessed;
Her husband also, and he praises her:
“Many daughters have done well,
But you excel them all.”

Proverbs 31:28-29

LORD Jesus, we praise You for You are God Almighty, Creator of the heavens and the earth. Thank You for blessing us so richly in giving us our family. Forgive us, O God we pray, whenever we are getting impatient with them or are complaining about our role. We praise You that we can come to You with all sorts of trouble and that You are the One who has all the answers. Enable us to trust You and obey Your Word. In Jesus’ precious name we pray. Amen.

The virtuous woman does not crave praises from others outside her family bond. True, she covets compliments, but she longs for the ones that are coming from her husband and her child/ren. Words filled with love and kindness, a smile, a hug from her own — which make all her pain of labor worth it.

READ — Let’s read the verses again

Her children rise up and call her blessed;
Her husband also, and he praises her:
“Many daughters have done well,
But you excel them all.”

ENGAGE — What are these verses saying?

What do her children and her husband call her?
_____
Who praises her?
(her) _____

Write down the words her husband uses to praise her:
_____ _____ _____ _____ _____,
_____ _____ _____ _____ _____.

APPLY — Think: How does this apply to you?

What things do your husband and children praise you for?
What kind of things are you doing for them that you think could deserve a little bit more gratitude? Would it help to change one or the other way of doing things?

DO — Think: What are some of the ways you could apply these verses?

True, time is an important factor in good housekeeping. Yes, your housework does take a lot of your effort. But consider this: even if you would work around the clock your work at home would still not be finished by 100%. There is always something else to do, isn’t there?

Time is also of great importance while you are caring for your family. Take time to listen to what your husband has to share about his work. Talk to him, yes, but also spend a little bit more time just being there and listening him. For the next soccer game, do not just drop off your child and drive away. Support him. Watch him play. It could mean the world to him. Spend an extra 60-minutes with your daughter to teach her how to bake that special cake. This might be the greatest encouragement for her ever to become a homemaker some day.

Spend an extra hour on each family member this week.

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Proverbs 31 Woman — Part 18

She watches over the ways of her household,
And does not eat the bread of idleness.

Proverbs 31:27

LORD Jesus we praise You for creating us. You know everything that went on, is going on, and will be happening in our household. We praise You for You are our Strength. Whenever we are weak we can come running to You and ask for help. You will never leave us nor forsake us. Hallelujah! Give us the wisdom, O God we pray, to hear Your Word, to seek Your Counsel, to delight in the law of the LORD. In Jesus’ precious name we pray. Amen.

What kind of an example the virtuous woman sets here! She keeps busy and always looks well after what is going on in her household.

READ — Let’s read today’s verse again

She watches over the ways of her household,
And does not eat the bread of idleness.

ENGAGE — What does the verse say?

What is the virtuous woman watching over?
(the ways of her) _____

What type o bread does she not eat?
(the bread of) _____

The virtuous woman knows that her role is crucial. She knows that she is playing a vital role in keeping the family together and her household running. She acknowledges that this is such an important God-given responsibility, and that there is no time to be wasted.

APPLY — Think: How does this apply to you?

How do you look at your role as a homemaker?

DO — Think: What are some of the ways you could apply this verse?

What are you looking for? Being worth it, finding fulfillment, and playing an important role? The world tells you that you will find these things mainly outside your home. Is that true?

I love what John MacArthur writes. Listen to this:

The home is the domain where a married woman fulfills herself in God’s design.

So you see that, being a woman, you are not worth less (or more) than a man. You are not second class, but your role is quite a different one. It’s not just that you happen to work in your home, but you are looking well after it. How?

Plan ahead of time: what needs to be done on a daily/weekly/monthly basis? Make a list of the things and do not be afraid to ask your family for help. It’s called teamwork and it will build the family ties.

Working according to a weekly schedule will also prevent you from becoming idle. You do not need to plan every minute of every day, but keep certain slots that are solely devoted to your husband, to your children, and to your whole family.

You are the “queen of your castle.” Your home should be a warm, cozy and safe place for your family and any guests. It’s not all about clothing and food, but also about finding someone there who cares.

Let me close by asking you this important question: Who will you let define your role?

Go to God’s Word and see what He says.

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Proverbs 31 Woman — Part 17

She opens her mouth with wisdom,
And on her tongue is the law of kindness.

Proverbs 31:26

LORD Jesus, we praise You for You are the Word. You are Wisdom. You are Kindness. You are Love. You are all the things we run out of so quickly. Forgive us that we so often look unto other people and things instead of looking to the One who is above all. Enable us to grow in Your Love. Make us wise, O God we pray, that we may learn to use our words seasoned with love and kindness. In Jesus’ precious name we pray. Amen.

The virtuous woman’s speech is filled with wisdom. Her words are kind — reminding herself and encouraging others to do what is right. Are we able to do the same?

READ — Let’s read it again

She opens her mouth with wisdom,
And on her tongue is the law of kindness.

ENGAGE — What does the verse say?

How does the virtuous woman open her mouth?
(with) _____

What law is on her tongue?
(the law of) _____

Matthew Henry comments on this verse:

Her wisdom and kindness together put a commanding power into all she says; they command respect, they command compliance. How forcible are right words!

Yes, words are powerful. They can build us and others up, and they can tear us and others down. That is why it is so important that we watch out and stay in control of them.

We are in such a powerful position. Our role is very important. Within the safety of our homes we can guide our husband and our children the most.

APPLY — Think: How does this apply to you?

What is your attitude while communicating? Do you submit to authorities and correction? Are your conversations seasoned with kindness? Where lies your strength when you happen to correct others? What is your weakness in doing so?

DO — Think: What are some of the ways you could apply this verse?

Speech begins within yourself. Watch over things that occupy your mind. Be careful what things you are giving access to your heart. (John Flavel wrote a great piece called “Keeping the Heart” which thoroughly covers that)

Use the Word. Listen to what Hebrew 4:12 says:

For the word of God is living and powerful, and sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing even to the division of soul and spirit, and of joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.

You cannot use what you do not know. So make it your top priority to study God’s Word.

Watch your mouth — outside and inside your home. Your words are powerful especially inside your home. Where do you see opportunities for yourself to build up another person? What kind of words are we using in prayer?

Written words are powerful. You are not able to reach your husband and/or your children (and grandchildren) because you cannot talk with each other? How about writing a little note, email, or even a letter to them?

Wisdom and kindness are found in God’s Word. Read your Bible today!

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