Proverbs 31 Woman — Part 20

Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing,
But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.

Proverbs 31:30

LORD Jesus, we praise You for You have made us and the plans You have for us are perfect. Forgive us, O God we pray, whenever we put Your Word second to all other things. Enable us to keep our focus on You and the Truth. Give us wisdom and understanding to run the race and to do everything as unto You and not as unto men. In Jesus’ precious name we pray. Amen.

What is the virtuous woman’s secret for her success? Today we are finally getting to the bottom of this.

READ — Let’s read the verse again.

Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing,
But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.

ENGAGE — What does the verse say?

What is deceitful?
_____

What will (eventually) pass?
_____

Which woman shall be praised?
(the woman who) _____ _____ _____

The virtuous woman is wise and so she uses her charm for good and not for evil. She also knows that her beauty will eventually pass. She understands what it means to fear the LORD.

APPLY — How does this apply to you?

Are you a person of great charm?
How important is your beauty?
Do you fear the LORD your God? In what way?

DO — Think: What are some of the ways you could apply this verse?

There is nothing wrong with charm. Use it for the good to draw other people close to you, and then point away from yourself and to Christ.

There is nothing wrong with beauty. Use it for the good, however, or it will cause you — and others — a lot of heartache. Give priority to the beauty that is found inside, and stay in control of your beauty that is on your outside (especially in the way you dress).

Listen to what Matthew Henry comments:

But the fear of God reigning in the heart is the beauty of the soul; it recommends those that have it to the favour of God, and is, in his sight, of great price; it will last for ever, and bid defiance to death itself, which consumes the beauty of the body, but consummates the beauty of the soul.

The central theme of the Book of Proverbs is the fear of the LORD. This book begins with and ends on this topic. Proverbs 1:7 says that

The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge, But fools despise wisdom and instruction.

It’s not a fear of being left alone or pushed into a corner, or of being afraid of the consequences of our behavior or of someone who wants to hurt us. No, this fear talks about having/showing deep reference for someone.

The fear of the LORD is the key to powerful living.

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Proverbs 31 Woman — Part 19

Her children rise up and call her blessed;
Her husband also, and he praises her:
“Many daughters have done well,
But you excel them all.”

Proverbs 31:28-29

LORD Jesus, we praise You for You are God Almighty, Creator of the heavens and the earth. Thank You for blessing us so richly in giving us our family. Forgive us, O God we pray, whenever we are getting impatient with them or are complaining about our role. We praise You that we can come to You with all sorts of trouble and that You are the One who has all the answers. Enable us to trust You and obey Your Word. In Jesus’ precious name we pray. Amen.

The virtuous woman does not crave praises from others outside her family bond. True, she covets compliments, but she longs for the ones that are coming from her husband and her child/ren. Words filled with love and kindness, a smile, a hug from her own — which make all her pain of labor worth it.

READ — Let’s read the verses again

Her children rise up and call her blessed;
Her husband also, and he praises her:
“Many daughters have done well,
But you excel them all.”

ENGAGE — What are these verses saying?

What do her children and her husband call her?
_____
Who praises her?
(her) _____

Write down the words her husband uses to praise her:
_____ _____ _____ _____ _____,
_____ _____ _____ _____ _____.

APPLY — Think: How does this apply to you?

What things do your husband and children praise you for?
What kind of things are you doing for them that you think could deserve a little bit more gratitude? Would it help to change one or the other way of doing things?

DO — Think: What are some of the ways you could apply these verses?

True, time is an important factor in good housekeeping. Yes, your housework does take a lot of your effort. But consider this: even if you would work around the clock your work at home would still not be finished by 100%. There is always something else to do, isn’t there?

Time is also of great importance while you are caring for your family. Take time to listen to what your husband has to share about his work. Talk to him, yes, but also spend a little bit more time just being there and listening him. For the next soccer game, do not just drop off your child and drive away. Support him. Watch him play. It could mean the world to him. Spend an extra 60-minutes with your daughter to teach her how to bake that special cake. This might be the greatest encouragement for her ever to become a homemaker some day.

Spend an extra hour on each family member this week.

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Proverbs 31 Woman — Part 18

She watches over the ways of her household,
And does not eat the bread of idleness.

Proverbs 31:27

LORD Jesus we praise You for creating us. You know everything that went on, is going on, and will be happening in our household. We praise You for You are our Strength. Whenever we are weak we can come running to You and ask for help. You will never leave us nor forsake us. Hallelujah! Give us the wisdom, O God we pray, to hear Your Word, to seek Your Counsel, to delight in the law of the LORD. In Jesus’ precious name we pray. Amen.

What kind of an example the virtuous woman sets here! She keeps busy and always looks well after what is going on in her household.

READ — Let’s read today’s verse again

She watches over the ways of her household,
And does not eat the bread of idleness.

ENGAGE — What does the verse say?

What is the virtuous woman watching over?
(the ways of her) _____

What type o bread does she not eat?
(the bread of) _____

The virtuous woman knows that her role is crucial. She knows that she is playing a vital role in keeping the family together and her household running. She acknowledges that this is such an important God-given responsibility, and that there is no time to be wasted.

APPLY — Think: How does this apply to you?

How do you look at your role as a homemaker?

DO — Think: What are some of the ways you could apply this verse?

What are you looking for? Being worth it, finding fulfillment, and playing an important role? The world tells you that you will find these things mainly outside your home. Is that true?

I love what John MacArthur writes. Listen to this:

The home is the domain where a married woman fulfills herself in God’s design.

So you see that, being a woman, you are not worth less (or more) than a man. You are not second class, but your role is quite a different one. It’s not just that you happen to work in your home, but you are looking well after it. How?

Plan ahead of time: what needs to be done on a daily/weekly/monthly basis? Make a list of the things and do not be afraid to ask your family for help. It’s called teamwork and it will build the family ties.

Working according to a weekly schedule will also prevent you from becoming idle. You do not need to plan every minute of every day, but keep certain slots that are solely devoted to your husband, to your children, and to your whole family.

You are the “queen of your castle.” Your home should be a warm, cozy and safe place for your family and any guests. It’s not all about clothing and food, but also about finding someone there who cares.

Let me close by asking you this important question: Who will you let define your role?

Go to God’s Word and see what He says.

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