The heart of her husband safely trusts her;
So he will have no lack of gain.
She does him good and not evil
All the days of her life
LORD Jesus we praise You for You are the Creator. You have made us, not we ourselves. You have given us Your perfect Word for comfort, for counsel, and for correction. Forgive us, precious LORD Jesus, whenever we neglect to see that You are the One who reigns — over the heavens and the earth, and over every male and female. You are the One who is above all and the One who knows all — all eras, all ages, all situations. Hallelujah! Enable us to love You more and more with each day, and to obey Your commandments. In Jesus’ precious name we pray. Amen.
Let’s just imagine for a minute that your husband has been offered a new job. It would be quite a challenge for him, though, as he would have to move out of his comfort zone. How would you react? What would you do? Would he have your full support? What if you are not so sure that he could do what is asked of him at the new job? How about if you would have to cut back and give up certain things, perhaps move to another place, leaving friends and family behind?
Who makes the final decision in your home? Do you usually submit to your husband’s will, even if this means that you have to neglect your own wishes? Or do you generally want to have things done in your own way and timing?
In the first chapter of the Book of Esther we read about a king named Ahasuerus. One day, when his heart was merry with wine, he commanded some of servants to bring his beautiful Queen Vashti before him. She should be wearing her royal crown, in order to show her beauty to the people and officials. (verses 10-11) Having her own party, a feast for the women in the royal palace, she refused to submit to the king’s command. (verses 9 and 12)
King Ahasuerus consulted the wise men who were close to him what he should do about this. They replied that Queen Vashti has not only wronged the king, but also all the prices and people in the provinces of his kingdom. (verses 13-16) With this in mind, let’s read the following verses:
For the queen’s behavior will become known to all women, so that they will despise their husbands in their eyes, when they report, ‘King Ahasuerus commanded Queen Vashti to be brought in before him, but she did not come.’
This very day the noble ladies of Persia and Media will say to all the king’s officials that they have heard of the behavior of the queen. Thus there will be excessive contempt and wrath.
If it pleases the king, let a royal decree go out from him, and let it be recorded in the laws of the Persians and the Medes, so that it will not be altered, that Vashti shall come no more before King Ahasuerus; and let the king give her royal position to another who is better than she.
When the king’s decree which he will make is proclaimed throughout all his empire (for it is great), all wives will honor their husbands, both great and small.”
And the reply pleased the king and the princes, and the king did according to the word of Memucan.
Then he sent letters to all the king’s provinces, to each province in its own script, and to every people in their own language, that each man should be master in his own house, and speak in the language of his own people.
Do we, no matter what state we are in, rich or poor, honor our husbands? Do we let our man be the master in his own house? Do we support him in the best way we can? Or will we tear down the house with our own actions, hands, words? God forbid!
Let’s review the verse of Wednesday’s blog post again:
The wise woman builds her house,
But the foolish pulls it down with her hands.
Matthew Henry warns about the foolish woman of Proverbs 14:1 by telling us that:
Many a family is brought to ruin by ill housewifery, as well as by ill husbandry. A foolish woman, that has no fear of God nor regard to her business, that is wilful, and wasteful, and humoursome, that indulges her ease and appetite, and is all for jaunting and feasting, cards and the play-house, though she come to a plentiful estate, and to a family beforehand, she will impoverish and waste it, and will as certainly be the ruin of her house as if she plucked it down with her hands; and the husband himself, with all his care, can scarcely prevent it.
LORD Jesus help us to become the kind of virtuous women we ought to be. Enable us to study and guide us in Your Word and reveal to us what it means to be the women You have created us to be. In Jesus’ mighty name we pray. Amen.
Support your husband so that he can safely trust you and will not lack anything today.