Obedience can hurt at times. It will make us uncomfortable. Many times we will have to leave our comfort zone to obey God’s Word. I’m thinking of 1 Peter 3:1-2 where it says:
Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear.
True we are thinking of the unbelieving husband first. How about the believing husbands, though, who do not obey this or that of what is said in the Bible? Do we need to correct them? Yes, we could, of course, lovingly bring to their attention what they are doing wrong. But how much more powerful it is if we are “living it” so that they will be won by our conduct.
No, we should never cover up sin nor call evil good. There is a way, however, in which we can guide our husbands until they will eventually do the right thing. How?
Let’s say a husband is constantly late and has no sense of time. His wife can kindly lead him by making sure he is on time. She could watch the clock and set her alarm a little beforehand to allow more time for him to get things ready. Isn’t that the way we would guide our children so they won’t get in trouble? Why not do the same for our husbands? We were made to be moms to watch over our children, but we were also made to be helpers to support our husbands.
It is said of the virtuous wife (Proverbs 31) that the heart of her husband safely trusts her (11), that she does him good and no evil all the days of her life (12), that her husband is known in the gates when he sits among the elders of the land (23), and that her husband and her children praise her (28-29). — If you would like to study this further, please check out the 21-part study series at MirjamFels.com called Proverbs 31 Woman.
Why do we go through so much effort to keep our children from harm and to support them in any way we can — while we so often neglect to do the same for our husbands?
If I put up a mirror I will have to admit that I often refuse to play the role of a helper because of a bitter root and/or out of pure selfishness. “He did not do as I expect him to do so I will not do what I’m supposed to do.” Ouch…
Trust in God and obey His Word.