Waiting on God is especially hard while we are suffering and facing trials — or longing to bear children. It requires faith and is believing that all things work together for good (Rom. 8:28).
If God doesn’t move according to our wishes we are tempted to take matters into our own hands. We want what we desire and that needs to happen within our own timing. This is not the way things should work! When do we delay God’s best for us? Is it not whenever we believe that He is not able to perform what He has promised to do?
This morning I read the story of how Abram and Sarai tried to “fix their problem” of not having children (see Genesis 16). It wasn’t the smartest move and brought along a lot of hate and disfunction of the family.
Why didn’t Abram and his wife wait on God? I’m not sure. Had they focused too much on their age and Sarai’s barrenness? Perhaps. It’s must have been hard on Sarai. Imagine, she was well passed the “normal” fertility age. Yes, God had promised Abram that his heir would come through his own body (Gen. 15:4). Sarai, however, was 76 years old that time. Surely the heir couldn’t come out of her womb, could he? She took matters into her own hands and Abram agreed.
Now you might be in your 20s, 30s, or even 40s, and longing to have a child. Unless the LORD has clearly revealed that He has other plans for you, keep on praying and praising God.
I know that this can be extremely hard to accept and if you are desperately longing to have children. I’ve been there. At this time in your life you might not become pregnant at all, already had a miscarriage, had to cope with a stillborn, or lost the child after giving birth. Precious sister, let me advice you: refocus on God and His will for your life. No doubt, it’s hard to wait on Him. Of course, it requires faith in Him.
How do you pray if you want children, but God doesn’t give you any (yet)?
The hardest part for me was to get to the point to “accept God’s will” for my life — including if and when I would have children and how many I would have. As a young girl I planned to have four sons one day. Well… I had one that was born alive. All following pregnancies ended in miscarriages. How do you cope if you keep miscarrying again and again? That will be a post for another day.
Don’t Despair. Wait on God.
Today I want to encourage you to keep on praying. Pray for that child (or that marriage, or that prodigal son, or whatever the situation might be). Don’t lose hope. Trust in God. Remember that His thoughts, His ways, His words are not like ours (Isaiah 55:8-9). While ours are defiled by sin and weakness, His are holy and powerful. Do you believe that by the word of God the heavens and earth and everything in it was made? Why shouldn’t He be able to save and make things new?
Pray and wait on God. Trust in Him. He is mighty!