Does your man speak a different language? How do you communicate with each other? You are able to talk to one another by learning to speak your husband’s language and/or by teaching him your own language.
My husband and I are German natives which means we are speaking the same language — um, at least most of the time. God created us different, however; He created us male and female. Men and women, husbands and wives, don’t always speak the same language.
We are living in Ireland, and so we have to speak English on a daily basis. Speaking German has always been common ground for us. English has become second nature to us now. Miscommunication will start, however, if we would try to communicate in French or Italian. My husband went through four years of learning French in school while I made a few attempts in learning Italian. I never gained enough knowledge to make use of the Italian language while my husband does a fantastic job in understanding and speaking French. We are able to have a conversation in German or English but not in French or Italian.
I love the Italian language. My attachment to it might come from the many summer vacations I spent in Italy while I was young. We’ve had an Italian course on our bookshelf at home, but not one of us picked it up to study the material. Besides, the little Italian, the German, and some English got us through each one of our vacations in Rimini.
I made so many attempts of learning this beautiful language. What kept me from studying it? Laziness, I’m afraid. I was just too lazy to press on and go beyond the frustration level of learning a new language.
Over a year ago God has brought a wonderful family into my life. Their hospitality is amazing and I just love to go to their house and listen to them talk to each other. My friend’s mother tongue is English, but she is married to an Italian. Guess what? Yes, I get to listen to them speaking Italian. I love it, um, even though I don’t understand much of what they are talking about.
A few days ago my friend brought me a present from her husband: An Italian intensive language course. I’ve bought the Italian Bible you see in the picture a few years ago, but I’ve never used it much. It’s about time!
Imagine the look of my husband when I’m throwing new Italian words at him. The expression on his face reads a lot like: What on earth are you talking about? Guess what? If he talks back in French I don’t have a clue what he is saying.
For our marriages to work we have to communicate to each other. Communication is the key! But how do we speak and understand our husbands language? Find out more in future posts under the category of “Husband.”